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I trust that one of the greatest impediments to a man living her qualities is the simplicity at which we stall out on some random day. What’s more, it’s seldom the huge occasions that keep us down however the littler, persevering musings, mentalities, and fears that appear constantly.

When I experience a major issue, for example, an occupation change or a passing in the family, I’m on high alarm for whatever restricts God’s integrity in my life. I’m most likely asking more than at different occasions. I’m additionally more inclined to care more for myself, since I perceive that I’m experiencing a hard time.

In any case, on a “conventional” day, maybe I’m not all that alarm. Or then again I’m searching just for enormous issues. Anyway, what leaves me speechless? More subtle stuff:

the doubt that someone in particular doesn’t care for me

my continuous judgment against myself for being overweight or absent minded or not exactly sufficiently fashionable or some other zone in which I have evaluated myself as insufficient

the blame that won’t leave, since despite everything I haven’t restored that telephone call

the uneasy feeling I have not tried to name or address since it’s, well, uneasy

the occasion or duty I’ve added to my timetable without observing how essential it is and on the off chance that I ought to have acknowledged it

my feeling that God is baffled in me and that the main arrangement is to spend around five hours in petition

Getting unstuck doesn’t involve rolling out a colossal improvement or proclaiming yet one all the more huge guarantee to God or to myself. Getting unstuck involves one little advance forward. What’s more, as a rule the initial step is a genuine registration with yourself. When you understand, late morning, that you’re wasting your time, feeling stuck, attempt this procedure or some variant of it:

Get peaceful with yourself for a couple of minutes. Ask, What feeling am I feeling? Name that feeling.

Presently ask, Why am I feeling this? What is this feeling appended to? Appeal to God for the acumen to recognize the discussion (a somewhat sharp trade with a partner ten minutes prior) or the conviction (I’m not [blank] enough.) or the stress (Is that check going to bob?).

Pick one move you can make to check what’s happening. Replay that disagreeable working environment discussion from more separation. Maybe you feel collapsed in light of the fact that that individual truly was unkind or out of line, in which case you can request that God enable you to process these all around established emotions or even return to the individual and attempt to clear up what’s extremely going on. On the off chance that you feel that you are insufficient, at that point get even minded about it. Has any other individual brought up that you’re missing—or is there any proof at all that you miss the mark? If not, it’s a great opportunity to reveal to yourself reality. (I’m turning misrepresentations once more, which just neutralizes me. Master, pardon me for going down that street once more. Help me consider myself to be you see me.) If the financial balance is a stress, plan one stage of activity, and request fortifications if essential.

Pushing ahead so regularly includes focusing on what is as opposed to what we envision or dread. When you feel yourself coming to a standstill, enable that stop to trigger some on-the-spot mindfulness.

St. Ignatius exhorted individuals to “act against” whatever obstructed their otherworldly advancement. It isn’t sufficient to guarantee oneself an unfortunate casualty to lie, hardship, or barricades. The Holy Spirit is our ally, and we have the ability to use sound judgment and make particular move. In this way, when false and terrible self-talk is attacking your means, utilize genuine words and pictures to battle it. When you feel overpowered by an errand, break it into littler undertakings, and begin with one of them. At the point when your profound situated emotions are hauling you to a stop, confront them with valor. God structured us to encounter a scope of feelings, since life requires them. They are not moral decisions but rather essential pieces of information. Grasp a hint, and search for whatever is left of the story. It’s your story, all things considered. You can claim it and work with it—and God gives the beauty to do only that.

 

 

In the event that you have been a Christian for any measure of time, you realize that profound enthusiasm, sight, and affections back and forth movement. On occasion our feeling of otherworldly substances can be solid and lively; different occasions, our hearts feel like lead weights and we wind up aching for God to visit us by and by and bring refreshment (Psalm 85:4-7). These seasons are generally alluded to as times of “profound dry spell” or “otherworldly dryness,” and discover imply articulation in a significant number of the Psalms. David frequently shouted out to God in times where his spirit appeared residue, and he longed to be invigorated by the nearness of the Lord (Psalm 13; Psalm 63). Different Psalmists communicated their aching to have their dry spirits to be renewed by the Lord (Psalm 42). The individuals who have tasted of the integrity of Christ comprehend being without that taste; it abandons us arguing, “illuminate my eyes, keeping in mind that I rest the rest of death” (Psalm 13:3)

Profound dry season, however a persevering and unwelcome guest isn’t something with which we should always live. There are Biblical means by which we can, by effortlessness, place ourselves in the method for refreshment; we can be reestablished to by and by feeling the delight of our salvation. However, this can just happen on the off chance that we can recognize why we may encounter otherworldly dryness so we can make the suitable move. Because of this, I might want to propose a couple of reasons we might encounter a period of a profound dry spell and give the connecting cures.

Unchecked Lust

Diminish’s notice couldn’t be more unequivocal: “Keep away from physical desires which take up arms against the spirit” (I Peter 2:11). Debased considerations and newly developed dreams will just dull our feeling of profound things; that is the thing that Peter implies when he discloses to us that desire “takes up arms against the spirit.” Harboring desire contaminates our still, small voice, encourages our corrupt substance, and shrivels our otherworldly essentialness. On the off chance that is encountering the attacks of a profound dry spell, it might be on account of we are engaging our psyches with desire and sustaining our wicked wants with suggestive motion pictures, magazines, web destinations, or by essentially visiting the neighborhood shopping center. The main cure called for here is earnest admission and contrition (Proverbs 28:13; I John 1:9). So as to discover our spirits by and by captivated with the delight of our salvation, we should admit these wrongdoings and abandon them (Psalm 51:1-12), making plans to never again make any arrangement for the substance (Romans 13:14).

Pride

Jesus, in going up against the Pharisees’ longing for self-praise, gives a significant knowledge with respect to how pride identifies with confidence. The Pharisees were not able to see reality and magnificence of Christ since they were beguiled by their own brilliance and adored getting acclaim from men. Jesus asks them, “How might you accept when you get eminence from each other and don’t look for the transcendence that originates from the main God” (John 5:44)? Sparing confidence was prevented by their pride. What’s more, despite the fact that this entry talks particularly of pride discouraging sparing confidence, I figure we can securely apply this guideline to our lives as Christians: pride murders confidence in Jesus. On the off chance that we are sustaining self-esteem, looking for acclaim and thankfulness from our companions, our assemblage, our educators, our chief, or the individuals who read our web journals, we will discover rapidly that “God restricts the pleased” (James 4:6). Our spirits will wither as we fill them with the grandness that originates from man. Then again, abandoning ourselves and our notorieties to commend Christ no matter what will achieve otherworldly reestablishment since “[God] offers effortlessness to the humble.”

Love of Money

There is additionally an immediate correlation between our connection to stuff and our capacity to see the eminence of God. Jesus interfaces our physical look with our otherworldly sight in Matthew 6:19-23. In sections 19-21, Christ teaches us to save enduring fortunes in paradise as opposed to impermanent wealth here on earth. Regardless of whether we do this or not will significantly affect our affections, for “where [our] treasure is, there [our] heart will be too.” Jesus proceeds with, “The eye is the light of the body. So if your eye is solid, your entire body will be loaded with light, however, in the event that your eye is awful, your entire body will be brimming with murkiness” (vv. 22-23). At the end of the day, in the event that we are settled upon the sparkle of natural wealth, the brilliance God’s transcendence can’t sparkle into our souls and we will just endure profound thirst, not immersion. The arrangement here is to begin taking our eyes of natural wealth. This is frequently helped through supplication and by standard and predictable providing for our places of worship, devoted gospel services, to poor people and to those in require. Isaiah 58:10-11 is empowering in such manner,

On the off chance that you spill yourself out for the hungry and fulfill the longing of the tormented, at that point will your light ascent in the dimness and your anguish be as the afternoon. Furthermore, the LORD will manage you constantly and fulfill your craving in seared places, and make your bones solid; and you will resemble a watered garden, similar to a spring of water whose waters don’t come up short.

An absence of Bible Reading, Meditation, and Prayer

When we disregard Bible perusing, contemplation, and supplication, we are cutting ourselves off from fundamental sustenance for our spirits. It is difficult to flourish profoundly without sustaining our brains and hearts with God’s Word. Song 1 helps us to remember the advantages of contemplation,

Favored is the man who strolls not in the direction of the evil, or obstructs miscreants, nor sits in the singe of scoffers, however, his joy is in the law of the Lord, and on his law, he thinks day and night. He resembles a tree planted by floods of water, that yields its organic product in its season, and its leaf do not shrivel, in all that he does, he succeeds (vv. 1-3)

Then again, our leaf will shrink on the off chance that we are not planting ourselves close to the nurturing surges of God’s Word. This update is particularly imperative for those of us to incline toward administration and who want to remain occupied and beneficial. Despite the fact that it regards be occupied and continually possessing large amounts of crafted by the Lord (I Corinthians 15:58), our work can wind up unfilled, inhumane, and sapped of intensity in the event that we are not powering ourselves with the otherworldly nourishment that originates from God’s Word. We have to battle to set aside standard time to peruse, ruminate, and ask over Scripture. It is likewise helpful to retain Scripture with the goal that we can get refreshment from Biblical truth whenever amid the day. On the off chance that we decline to drink from the well of God’s Word all the time, we should just expect dry ground and wilted takes off.

A lot of Time Indoors

It is anything but difficult to perceive any reason why obtrusive sins like desire, pride, and the adoration for cash can obstruct profound energy and love. It isn’t so natural to perceive the unobtrusive impacts another way of life propensities have on our energy and imperativeness. One territory that I find gets little consideration is the part of the creation in keeping up our otherworldly wellbeing. In any case, if the sky proclaims the magnificence of God (Psalms 19:1), and in the event that we are revived by observing God’s eminence, it would just bode well to go outside with a specific end goal to view that radiance! On occasion I can actually feel my confidence resuscitated as I spend a couple of minutes gazing toward the glory of a starry evening sky, loaded up with unimaginable articulations of intensity and imagination. I can discover refreshment in a basic climb or walk. Also, I don’t think this is just on the grounds that I “love the outside.” I cherish the outside, not on the grounds that I can get REI profit credits, but rather in light of the fact that I can see grandness; and seeing this wonder has frequently served to reestablish my tired soul.

Absence of Exercise

This ties in with the last point yet have a place in its own particular classification since one doesn’t really should be outside keeping in mind the end goal to get work out. Presently, keeping in mind that this sound unspiritual and more like I am recommending things that are just helpful to those of a specific physiological cosmetics, let me have Don Whitney say something regarding this regularly ignored yet imperative point,

Our bodies are not only expendable holders for our unceasing spirits. God could have made us be incorporeal spirits, living perpetually in a condition like the spirits in Heaven live while sitting tight for revived bodies… But He made us be finished as a solidarity of body and soul. . . . One of the manners in which the body can have a constructive outcome upon the spirit is through recreational physical movement. Since most profound practices [disciplines: perusing, composing, examine, contemplation, etc.] are by definition otherworldly and not extremely physical, if our everyday work is generally mental and stationary then there’s little-assorted variety in the sort of jolts we encounter. Furthermore, the dullness of that can decrease the effect of our profound practices. The assortment that recreational physical activity gives to the cerebrum cells and muscle strands of a body may invigorate the spirit that abides in it (Simplify Your Spiritual Life)

Many will locate their profound imperativeness recharged by just going on a thirty-moment walk or run, or by taking a dip, or by riding their bicycle, or by climbing a portion of the trails close to their home. I am regularly astonished at how a tad of activity benefits me rationally and profoundly. Maybe you are seeking after the Lord, embarrassing sin, customary in Bible perusing and supplication, but then discover your spirit dry and dusty—perhaps you ought to go on a run.

Disregard of Responsibilities

When we pick sluggishness over industriousness, this can regularly prompt profound dryness, even sorrow. What’s more, this procedure, for the most part, sustains itself: lethargy will make profound dryness; when we are profoundly dry and discouraged, we are typically not intensely inspired to seek after the determination. However, it is exactly now that we have to break the cycle. We were made to work—when we subvert this key part of our personhood, we will end up profoundly dry and disappointed. Apathy never fulfills. That is one motivation behind why Scripture is loaded with charges to seek after persistence.

 

 

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“Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the path of sinners, nor sits in the seat of the scornful, But his delight is in the law of the Lord, and in His law he meditates day and night. He shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that brings forth its fruit in its season, whose leaf also shall not wither; and whatever he does shall prosper.” (Psalm 1:1-3)

According to the above text, one who delights in the law of the Lord is “blessed.” It is his primary focus. He meditates on it day and night. It is a source of refreshment and life to him. He becomes as a tree that is planted by a river because the word of God makes his life fruitful and productive.

In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus describes him as a person who will “hunger and thirst for righteousness” (Matthew 5:6). He considers receiving and giving instruction in God’s word as one of his greatest blessings. Learning and/or teaching the law of God is an activity he eagerly anticipates and thoroughly enjoys. Therefore, he values those times when his fellow-saints assemble for study and worship — knowing he will be with people who, like him, respect and adore the word of God.

Nehemiah 8:1-8 Is An Example of Proper Attitude Toward the Word of God

After their return from Babylonian captivity, the people of Judah set about to restore worship to God in Jerusalem. In Nehemiah 8, they asked Ezra the scribe to read the law of God to them. He assembled all the people, opened the book of the law before them, and then read distinctly from it to make sure the assembled crowd understood its message. The people, when beckoned, willingly assembled. They stood when the book of the law was opened — a show of reverence. Standing from daybreak to midday, they praised God for His word and then fell on their faces worshiping Him.

Whether proclaiming the word or receiving instruction from it, we should have the same willingness to assemble, the same reverence and respect, and the same praise for our God.

Acts 10:33 Is Another Example

Having summoned Peter to preach the message of God to him and his family, Cornelius told him of their willingness to hear him preach the gospel of Christ. Cornelius’ attitude — a model for all — caused him to:

  • Send for one knowledgeable in God’s word.
  • Assemble his family to hear what Peter would proclaim.
  • Realize that God was present and that everything was being said and done before Him.
  • Be ready to hear all things God had commanded.

What We Must Be and Do

If we are going to have the proper attitude toward the word of God, therefore, we must:

  • Have good and honest hearts (Luke 8:15).
  • Allow the word of God to “prick” our hearts (Acts 2:37).
  • Gladly receive the word (Acts 2:40).
  • Be discerning hearers (Acts 17:11).
  • Be eager hearers (Matthew 5:6; Acts 10:33).
  • Desire to hear and know all of the word (Acts 10:33).
  • Desire only the word of God (Matthew 15:9).

What is your attitude toward the word of God? What should it be? Make sure it is what the Lord would have it to be.

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Shortly after Simon Peter made his confession to Jesus (Matthew 16:13-20 – NKJV), the gospel account next records the following exchange between Master and disciple:

“From that time Jesus began to show to His disciples that He must go to Jerusalem, and suffer many things from the elders and chief priests and scribes, and be killed, and be raised the third day. Then Peter took Him aside and began to rebuke Him, saying, ‘Far be it from You, Lord; this shall not happen to You!’ But He turned and said to Peter, ‘Get behind Me, Satan! You are an offense to Me, for you are not mindful of the things of God, but the things of men’” (Matthew 16:21-23 – NKJV).

At first reading, we might think that Jesus’ reply to Peter seems harsh. After all, Peter loved and revered Jesus — he had plainly confessed his faith in Jesus as the Christ. The very idea that someone would harm Jesus, much less kill Him, was unthinkable to Peter. He was willing to take up arms (John 18:10) and even sacrifice his own life (Matthew 26:35) to prevent any aggression against the Son of God. Most of us would be delighted to have someone as concerned for our well-being. Why then does Jesus upbraid Peter so sharply, calling him “an offense,” even referring to the apostle metaphorically as “Satan”? (Matthew 16:23 – NKJV).

To answer this question, let us carefully observe the latter part of Jesus’ rebuke:

“You are not mindful of the things of God, but the things of men.”

Jesus did not deny Peter’s love for Him, but He recognized that love, to a certain degree, was a selfish one. After listening to the teachings of Jesus for three years, one would think that Peter would have understood God’s plan and purpose in sending His Son required His death as a sacrifice for the sins of others. Even if that fact were not entirely clear to the apostle, something else should have been — if the Lord said something had to happen in order for His will to be accomplished — that was exactly the way it had to happen (cf. Isaiah 55:10-11 – NKJV). There could be no room for argument, compromise, or second-guessing.

There’s no question that Peter believed in Jesus’ mission (Matthew 10:5-6 – NKJV; cf. Matthew 15:24; Matthew 18:11; Luke 19:10), but he wanted to see that mission accomplished on terms suitable to him. He desired salvation, but he didn’t want Jesus to suffer and die to make that salvation possible — even if God said it was necessary (Hebrews 10:5-10 – NKJV; cf. Psalm 40:6-8 – NKJV; Matthew 26:39 – NKJV; John 4:34 – NKJV; John 5:30 – NKJV; John 6:38 – NKJV). Peter’s motivation to preserve the life of the Lord he so loved, would seem noble in our eyes. However, Jesus wanted him to understand that no motive is noble if it conflicts with God’s divine plan!

In today’s so-called religious world, we see many folks who are mindful of the things of men rather than of God. Their motives often appear worthwhile because they say they do not want anyone to be lost. However, they tell folks their sins are forgiven and their souls saved when they have not obeyed God’s commands of repentance and baptism (Mark 16:16; Acts 2:38; 1 Peter 3:21). Focusing only on the happiness of people, they offer them worldly diversions, even though these things are not according to God’s will (Colossians 2:18-23 – NKJV).

They want people to attend church services, so they make worship an attractive spectacle instead of humble obeisance to the Lord (John 4:24 – NKJV; 1 Corinthians 10:31 – NKJV; Colossians 3:16-17 – NKJV; cf. Micah 6:8 – NKJV; 1 Samuel 15:22 – NKJV). They don’t want to offend anyone, so they permit women to lead in worship despite God’s prohibitions in that regard (1 Corinthians 14:34-38; 1 Timothy 2:11-12) and justify those who unrepentantly engage in immorality (1 Corinthians 6:9-10; Galatians 5:19-21).

Jesus’ words to Peter prove that even the most sincere individual can be sincerely wrong when that sincerity is not fully subject to God’s will. Peter’s love for Jesus could not be permitted to supplant the Father’s righteous plan for mankind’s salvation (cf. 1 Corinthians 2:7-8 – NKJV). We would be wise to learn from Peter’s error, and remember that God’s work can only be done God’s way (Matthew 7:21-23), lest He say to us, “Get behind Me, Satan!” (Matthew 16:23 – NKJV).

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In this article, let us briefly look at twelve types of givers and types of giving in the Bible:

1) The Willing GiverAbraham, who offered his only son (Genesis 22:1-19).

2) The Big Little Giver – The widow, who in giving two mites, gave all she had (Mark 12:42-44).

3) The Stingy Giver – Saul, who wanted to offer the spoils of the Amalekites (1 Samuel 14:17-23).

4) The Sacrificial Giver – David, who refused to give that which cost him nothing (2 Samuel 24:24).

5) The Covetous Givers – Ananias and Sapphira, who held back part of the price of their possession pretending to give all (Acts 5:1-10).

6) The Consecrated Givers – The Macedonians, who first gave of themselves to the Lord (2 Corinthians 8:1-5).

7) The Life Givers – Peter and John, who had neither silver or gold, but instead gave life to the lame man (Acts 3:1-9).

8) The Voluntary Giver – Zacchaeus, who gave of his goods to feed the poor without being asked (Luke 19:1-9).

9) The Reward Givers – Those who gave to be seen of men. They had their only reward here on earth (Matthew 6:2).

10) The Unpretentious Giver – The Samaritan, who made no show of his giving (Luke 10:25-37).

11) The Perfumed Givers – The Philippians, whose gifts were “an odour of a sweet smell, a sacrifice acceptable, wellpleasing to God” (Philippians 4:18).

12) The Greatest Giver – God, who gave His only begotten Son for you and me that we might be saved (John 3:16-17).

In this list of types of giving in the Bible, which giver best describes you? Let’s seriously think about this list of various types of givers and then strive to give our best to the Lord and His service. The Lord gave us the best that heaven had to offer, the sacrifice of His Son (Hebrews 9:11-14; 1 Peter 1:18-19).

 

 

The group model is a fancy way of talking about what each small group will look like once it’s done being put together. It’s a lot like a model car or airplane. There’s a picture on the box of what it’s supposed to look like once everything is done being snapped and glued together and once it has all the decal stickers and paint applied. This manual is the box cover that shows us what the group will should look like.

 

There are several different methods or models for small groups. The first question we have to answer in determining the model that best fits us is what is our purpose for a small group ministry? If our purpose is to learn more about the Bible then that will shape the form of the group. Or if the purpose were to exist as a separate Church altogether then that would certainly shape the way the group looked. Since we have a clear purpose (establish and maintain a structure where relationships can be created and cultivated), we are able to envision our model with a great deal of clarity. Our small groups will consist of 7-15 people meeting in one another’s homes to discuss Biblical topics and passages, share in time of prayer and intercession and spend time in fellowship. An important note is that these numbers are exact. If a group does not have at least seven people sign up (including the leader and co-leader) then the group will not be formed. Each of those members will be asked to join another group. Likewise, once a group is at fifteen people it will be closed and no additional church members will be able to sign up. This may, at first, seem overly strict; however this is an intentional effort to respect the natural group dynamics that have been previously discussed. If the group is too small or too large, it will struggle to meet the intended purpose.

 

Open or Closed Groups

The idea of being open or closed has to do with whether or not the group will encourage and invite people to join the group while it is in session. Because of our primary purpose, each small group will be closed to our church members once it has begun. That means there’s no group hopping if someone becomes unhappy with their group. However, because of our secondary purposes of assimilation and evangelism, each small group will be open for us to invite our friends, new members or people who visit.

 

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Group Dynamics
At this point it is helpful to consider the impact of group dynamics and how this idea plays out in our own model, or way of “doing church”. Group dynamics are not an especially religious phenomenon; as they extend beyond churches and into organizations of all shapes, sizes and purposes. When we use the term group dynamics, what we are referring to here is primarily the differences between people’s interactions and relationships when they are placed in groups of different sizes. In other words, how people act when they are in a group of seven people will be different from how people act when they are in a group of one hundred people.

 

Large Groups = Family Reunions

The first of the three different group types is the large group. A large group numbers more than 50-60 participants and is comprised primarily of tertiary relationships. In our context, our Sunday morning worship assembly is a large group; where the primary purpose is to worship God together as a large family. There is very little, if any, personal sharing that takes place when this group meets. Specifically, our interaction and relationship development is limited to the few minutes prior to and immediately following the worship time.

 

In order to understand the social dynamic, it might be helpful to think of this group as a family reunion. At traditional family reunions we have the opportunity to catch up on what’s been going on in our lives, reminisce about fond memories and departed loved ones, share a great meal together and even create a few new memories. It’s a great time, a time that none of us would ever trade. But there are limits to what we do together. This is very much what our Sunday morning worship is like.

 

One of the misunderstandings of large groups in the church context is that everyone should be close, and able, to minister to everyone. That is an expectation that cannot be met and sets people up for disappointment and disillusionment with church; because it is not congruent with the purpose of the large group on Sunday mornings—which is to worship, encourage one another and be edified by the Word of God being presented.

 

Medium Groups = Thanksgiving Dinner

The next group is the medium sized group. A medium sized group will generally number between 15-50 people. These groups are comprised primarily of secondary relationships. In the context of our church our medium-sized groups are primarily going to be bible classes on Sunday morning and Wednesday evening. These middle-sized groups are usually, depending to a large extent on the group leader, successful at providing a non-threatening environment where people can share on a surface level. People can get to know everyone in the group by name, talk about things like the weather, their hobbies and maybe even their families. It’s an opportunity to experience social fellowship, acceptance and sense of belonging. And in the context of our bible classes, it gives people the opportunity to ask questions and share thoughts and opinions about the text or topic being discussed, which the large group does not provide.

 

If the large group is like the family reunion, then the medium sized group is like the family that gets together at Thanksgiving. Your spouse, children, grandkids and perhaps a sibling might all be present. Because of these relationships, we will generally share on a much more personal level than with our second cousins at the family reunion. But because of the size of the group and the relationships present there is still a ceiling or limit to the level of closeness that we might be willing to share.

 

Small Groups = Dinner Table

This brings us to small groups. These groups generate primary relationships and generally number between 5-15 people. It is in these primary or small groups that relationships are deepened and intimate or personal sharing takes place. Referring to the family illustration, this would be your immediate family with your spouse and children. When your immediate family sits down together for supper (at the dinner table) there is very little that is off limits in terms of where our relationships will allow the conversations to go. If we are functioning as healthy family units then the kids will feel open to share what happened at school that day and how it made them feel (good or bad). Similarly, Dad will feel comfortable griping to Mom about the person at work that is being difficult. And Mom will have no problem sharing the personal struggle that she might be having with her sister and mother. These are representative examples of what small groups are like—members of the group sharing life together and thereby practicing the “one another” passages. This is different in content from the Thanksgiving meal family. And it is certainly different from the Family Reunion group.

 

A Summary Diagram of the Small, Medium and  Large Group Types

 

In the church setting the small group goes beyond surface interaction and social fellowship to a spiritual fellowship. In small groups people can begin to fulfill biblical mandates such as “bear one another’s burdens” (Gal 6:2) and “weep with those who weep” (Rom 12:15). The small group is the context where those things are lived out.

 

The point is not that small groups are inherently more valuable or more biblical. Each has their place in the Church and presents their own unique value. And this is why a small group ministry is essential for our ability as a Church to effectively live out the biblical expression of the church as a family. Having this ministry built into our structure provides a stable and consistent opportunity for us to collectively practice the “one another’s” and thereby fulfill our Vision to be Jesus’ family.

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The Remaining Purposes

The primary purpose of our Small Group ministry is to provide a permanent and consistent structure that is conducive for creating and cultivating relationships. There are six additional purposes: they are discipleship, evangelism, leadership development, ministry (via spiritual gifts and assimilation.

 

Discipleship

Discipleship is process of becoming more Christ-like. Paul wrote specifically about this in his letter to the Romans.

 

Romans 12:1-2

Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

 

When we refer to discipleship we are also talking about spiritual development. Small groups provide for discipleship in ways that our large (worship assembly) and medium (bible classes) sized groups are less effective. The reason is along the same lines that we have discussed with group dynamics. In the large group we are presented with information about how God wants us to live and encouraged to go and live that way. In the bible classes we have the opportunity to discuss what it looks like to live out the scriptures, but we rarely move past this level into talking about how we are personally succeeding or struggling to do so. In small groups we will have the opportunity to share in these more personal discussions.

 

Evangelism

Evangelism is directly impacted by small groups in that they provide a non-threatening and informal environment where non-Christians can interact and develop relationships with Christians. Every relationship increases the opportunity the person to be converted to Christ. Additionally, people who have little to no church background are (for whatever the reason) often reticent to accept an invitation to come to a worship service. In those instances, an invitation to join a group of friends is much more likely.

Leadership Development

Leaders are not developed without having the opportunity lead. And opportunities to lead rarely present themselves without intentionality. Leaders are raised up through small groups as they are given more opportunities through practical experience.

 

Ministry (via Spiritual Gifts)

Through Paul’s writing, the Holy Spirit makes it very clear that He has given each Christian at least one gift. Consider this passage from 1 Corinthians:

 

1 Corinthians 12:4-7

There are different kinds of spiritual gifts, but the same Spirit is the source of them all. There are different kinds of service, but we serve the same Lord. God works in different ways, but it is the same God who does the work in all of us. A spiritual gift is given to each of us so we can help each other. 

Some gifts are public in nature. For example, the gifts of teaching, preaching or worship leading all have natural avenues to be utilized. However, that is not the case for all the gifts. There are others that can easily go underutilized if we are not intentional about creating opportunities. The small group structure, for reasons already discussed, provide the opportunity for relational gifts to be manifested and appreciated.

 

Assimilation

The final purpose for our Small Group ministry is to provide a means to assimilate visitors and new members into the family (by helping them to develop relationships with as many people as possible). This has also been referred to as “closing the back door”. There are few things more frustrating of investing yourself so much into sharing your faith with a friend, praying for them, studying the Bible with them, converting them to Jesus Christ and then watching them slowly fall away because they were never able to get connected and by making friends with people in the church. A small group is a natural on-ramp that will connect visitors and new converts alike with the members of the church and provide the opportunity to begin creating and cultivating relationships.


By now you may have begun to realize why creating and cultivating relationships is the primary purpose of the Small Groups ministry and all these other purposes (though important) are secondary. Each one of these other five purposes is a positive outcome of creating and cultivating strong relationships. And beyond that, each of these secondary purposes are interconnected and feed off of one another. 

 

 

THE PURPOSE OF SMALL GROUPS

The primary purpose of the Small Group ministry is to provide a permanent and consistent structure that is conducive for creating and cultivating relationships. There are five additional purposes that are important—but creating and cultivating relationships is the ultimate reason for the ministry.

 

Before continuing with a deeper explanation of the purposes, it’s important to understand how the Small Groups ministry fits into our Vision Statement—which is a constant reminder of who we are and what we strive to be. Simply put, we are striving to create and cultivate relationships so that we can better fulfill our Vision.

 

Vision Statement

Our vision is to be Jesus’ family that is united by God’s love and is passionately and prayerfully seeking to Know, Serve and Share Him.

 

Being a part of a family, particularly God’s family, necessitates that we are bound together by strong relationships. Family is a constant fixture in the New Testament, as it is repeatedly used to illustrate God’s will for the lives of His church. Though there are many others, consider these scriptures in the context of family.

 

Ephesians 2:17-19

17 He brought this Good News of peace to you Gentiles who were far away from him, and peace to the Jews who were near. 18 Now all of us can come to the Father through the same Holy Spirit because of what Christ has done for us.19 So now you Gentiles are no longer strangers and foreigners. You are citizens along with all of God’s holy people. You are members of God’s family.

 

1 Timothy 3:14-15

14 I am writing these things to you now, even though I hope to be with you soon, 15 so that if I am delayed, you will know how people must conduct themselves in the household of God. This is the church of the living God, which is the pillar and foundation of the truth.

 

Hebrews 3:5-6

Moses was certainly faithful in God’s house as a servant. His work was an illustration of the truths God would reveal later. But Christ, as the Son, is in charge of God’s entire house. And we are God’s house, if we keep our courage and remain confident in our hope in Christ.

 

Based on these Scriptures it seems clear that together we make up God’s family or household, and that Jesus Christ is the head of the family. From an appreciation of this reality we are left with the challenge of understanding what a biblical family looks, and is supposed to act like. As we attempt to answer this question there is one thing that we can be certain of: the first century family and the twenty-first century family look and live radically different from one another. It’s not possible, nor would we likely want to live life as a first century family. And while we are not able to transition the cultural norms that defined first-century family, we are able to transition the divinely-instituted values that are embedded into the fabric of all family structures, regardless of what they look like.

 

For our purposes, we have decided to define and communicate our family values by using the “one another” passages found in the New Testament. So in other words, when we say that our vision is to “be Jesus’ family,” that means we want to consistently and effectively live out the “one another” passages; and by doing so we intend to bring the biblical values of family into the twenty-first century.

 

Unfortunately, this is easier said than done. And at times we have not done a very good job of making this happen. Just consider this, how often have we or do we help one another work through the consequences and burdens that our sins create in our lives (Galatians 6:1-2)? Similarly, it is probably quite rare when we have the depth of relationships necessary for us to feel comfortable confessing our sins to a brother or sister and asking them to pray for us (James 5:16). These are biblical mandates that we often fail to live out. Yet, it’s not for lack of desire. In fact, we often greatly desire to have the relationships that would enable us to share in this manner.

 

So what is creating this disconnect? Assuming that we do have a desire to share these types of relationships, what is keeping us (as a church family) from turning our desires into purposeful results? Though we may be oversimplifying it somewhat, our answer is found in these two explanations. First, our Western culture has permeated our lives to such an extent that our greatest values are our privacy and individualism. These values are set in direct opposition to the practice of the divinely inspired “one another’s”. For example, to a large degree, it is likely our desire for privacy that makes us uncomfortable with the idea of sharing our personal failures with someone else. Overcoming this obstacle is no small task. It will require awareness and intentional persistence.


The second explanation, more tangible in nature, is the model or structure that we operate within. Church model or structure is another way of saying the way we “do church”. We currently exist within a traditional model that features the use of large and medium-sized groups.

 

 

I appreciated the opportunity to review several articles related to conflict and conflict resolution, particularly as it relates to “in the trenches” ministry. It was because of this fact that I was able to derive the greatest value. And it is also because of this that I am able to relate these articles back to the Scriptures. To that extent, the articles were full of biblical principles.

First of all, there is a widely perpetuated myth that conflict is immoral, or even sinful. It seems likely that this myth is spread by the reality of our consistent failures when it comes to how people respond to various conflicts. In other words, because we are so accustomed to the negative outcomes that come from handling conflict poorly, we naturally assume or that conflict in sinful. This is not true and is supported neither by the inspired Scriptures nor practical experience. Reading the articles help to reinforce my thinking on this.

The truth is that our behaviors and choices before and after the conflict is what is actually sinful or glorifying to God. Conflict by itself is amoral. Jesus’ life serves as a clear representation of this challenging reality. The Gospels record one conflict after another between Jesus and His contemporaries. For example, the Gospel of John records Jesus’ creation of conflict and details his response.

13 When it was almost time for the Jewish Passover, Jesus went up to Jerusalem. 14 In the temple courts he found people selling cattle, sheep and doves, and others sitting at tables exchanging money. 15 So he made a whip out of cords, and drove all from the temple courts, both sheep and cattle; he scattered the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables. 16 To those who sold doves he said, “Get these out of here! Stop turning my Father’s house into a market!” 17 His disciples remembered that it is written: “Zeal for your house will consume me” (John 2:13-17).

 

 

In this example, the fact that Jesus was involved in a fairly serious conflict demonstrates that it is not inherently sinful. However, in this instance (and in Jesus’ opinion) these conflicts were initiated because of the sinful attitudes and actions of those that he was in conflict with.

One other consideration related to the amoral nature of conflict is its inherent inevitability. Fundamentally, conflict is simply the absence of agreement. Or more specifically, according to Dictionary.com it is defined as: coming into collision or disagreement; being contradictory, at variance, or in opposition. It seems rather obvious that disagreements and variances are going to happen between people—even those with especially close and loving relationships (i.e. parent/child or spouses). Man was created to be a unique individual. That one fact alone is bound to create conflicts.

This leads naturally to the question, “what causes conflict”? In his article, “Seven Reasons for Staff Conflict,” Jacobsen lists several factors that create conflict: majoring in minors, miscommunication, environment, diversity in perspective, generational differences, theological disagreements and a lack of relationships.

Certainly, as has been referred to, conflict can be created innocently; and it may simply be a matter of two people respectfully disagreeing about an issue that is entirely innocuous or benign. However, that is not necessarily the case; and the Bible speaks loudly and clearly about defining those behaviors and attitudes that instigate conflict that may not be entirely above reproach; or that which may actually be sinful. Paul’s comments in his letter to the Ephesians serve to frame this conversation. He writes:

And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as his own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption. 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. 32 Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.

 

Through these comments, Paul appears to be making the case that these particular behaviors contradict the will and nature of the Holy Spirit: bitterness, rage, anger, harsh and slanderous words and all other types of evil behaviors. He then gives three directions that, not coincidently, align themselves with his more famous list found in Galatians 5:22-23 (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control). It’s clear that (according to v.32) Paul is providing direction that, if followed, will limit unnecessary conflict. For example, Paul is saying that we ought to live without rage, anger, harsh words and slander—the perfect ingredients for a feud. So what causes conflict? At least according to Paul, conflict is created when people live contrary to the will and leading of the Holy Spirit.

Many of the Proverbs mirrors Paul’s thinking. Or perhaps, it’s more accurate to say that Paul’s direction may actually be reflecting teachings found in the Proverbs. Specifically, 15:1 states that “a gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.” This clearly teaches that angry and harsh words incite tempers; which in turn produces or exacerbates conflict. Anger and harshness is in direct opposition to gentleness and kindness, two “Fruits of the Spirit.”

Proverbs 18:13 shares another direction that aligns itself with Paul’s teachings in Galatians. It states that, “spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish.” This is a clear indictment against a lack of patience, another “fruit of the Spirit”. Proverbs 26:20-21 provides one additional example. “Fire goes out without wood, and quarrels disappear when gossip stops. A quarrelsome person starts fights easily as hot embers light charcoal or fire lights wood.” The first of these two proverbs indicate that gossip is a common source of conflict. It’s reasonable to conclude that a lack of self-control is a common source of gossip. In the second proverb, the writer indicates that a quarrelsome person does not live at peace. These are two more “fruits of the Spirit. One last time . . . based upon this evidence, it seems that at least some conflict is generated when people live contrary to the will and leading of the Holy Spirit.

As was discussed previously, this truly lays at the crux of the matter because it is often at this point that sin enters into the picture. Again, conflict alone is not sinful. However, manner in which it is created and resolved may certainly be. So what does the Bible say with regard to resolving conflict? What direction exists that would lead a God-fearing and Spirit-following person to successfully navigate conflict? The answer . . . plenty.

Keeping in mind that giving in to the opposite party is not necessarily the right choice, Proverbs 19:11 provides a compelling argument. It states that “sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs.” In short, it may well be the case that the best way to resolve a conflict is to ignore the transgression that instigated it.

Paul provides several strong teachings on handling conflict. For example, in Colossians 3:13-15 Paul says that we ought to:

make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. 14 Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. 15 And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful.

 

He also shares in 1 Peter 3:8-9 that

 

all of you should be of one mind. Sympathize with each other. Love each other as brothers and sisters. Be tenderhearted, and keep a humble attitude. Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God has called you to do, and he will bless you for it.

 

Perhaps the greatest teaching on handling conflict comes from Paul in his letter to the Philippians 2:3-5. In this letter it seems that Paul was attempting to reconcile damaged relationships. He writes in this text, “don’t be selfish; don’t try impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had.”