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What are the qualifications to lead a group? It’s all based on relationships. There are three relationships that are so important for our Small Group ministry to thrive; and it’s important that our Group Leaders have healthy relationships in each area.


  1. Relationship with God
    • A Christian who is in a maturing relationship with God.


  1. Relationship with Family
    • In obedience to God is seeking to have a positive and healthy relationship with immediate family.


  1. Relationship to Church
    • A committed member of the Church family.
    • Fully supports the Vision and Mission of the Church family through giving and serving.



Prior to leading a small group it is necessary to attend a leader training event. The initial training will take place in the form of a Model Small Group. Subsequent training will take place quarterly (on a Saturday morning for three to four hours) prior to launching new groups. Because there will likely be occasional changes, it will be necessary to attend the training event even if you have previously led a group.


Developing New Leaders

Developing and creating a pipeline of new leaders is crucial for our Small Group ministry as we move forward from the start-up phase. Having quality leaders will create our ability to maintain quality groups, and add more groups as the need arises. From a wider perspective, our overall health as a Church will depend greatly on having fresh and strong leaders who are both capable and willing to step forward when the need arises.  


This will not happen just because we recognize the need for it to happen. We must develop an intentionality and purpose in cultivating a culture that encourages people to find their leadership talents and gives them to opportunity to develop those talents in a safe environment. Again, this will not happen by accident. Together we will make it happen!


There are two intentional activities that we will consistently plan on. We are purposing for these activities to help accomplish the goals of creating the culture and creating opportunities.


  1. Consistently teach on Biblical leadership in our large group worship assembly and middle group Bible classes. We are often guilty of two errors when it comes to our thinking on biblical leadership; and these misunderstandings can create barriers to maintaining a leadership development culture.
  • First, it’s easy for us to equate being in charge or being the boss to leadership. These are two different dynamics. The authority that comes with being in charge is title or role based. That means that because of a position a person holds, they inherently hold a position of authority. That’s true for many of us at work. The manager at the plant has the authority because he is the Manager. This is not necessarily leadership. Leadership authority is not derived from a position or role that a person holds. It is given to the leader by the people that choose to follow him or her; and is generated through the influential relationships that a person creates and cultivates.


  • The second misunderstanding is that successful secular leadership will naturally translate into successful spiritual leadership. Often times this is the case. There are generic traits that lend themselves to strong leadership, regardless of the setting. But when we study how Jesus led people, we see that there is something unique that sets Biblical leadership apart.


The more we teach (from the Bible) what Biblical leadership is and what it looks like, the more people will understand what it is not. From this understanding, encouragement and confidence will follow. Once people understand that they are gifted in ways that will allow them to be effective leaders, they are more willing to open themselves up to the risk of stepping out and giving leadership a try. This is a win that we must encourage and celebrate!


There is a particular passage that is especially relevant to this discussion.

1 Peter 2:5, 9

“And you are living stones that God is building into His spiritual temple. What’s more, you are His holy priests.”

“But you are not like that, for you are a chosen people. You are royal priests, a holy nation, God’s very own possession. As a result, you can show others the goodness of God, for he called you out of the darkness into his wonderful light.”


What a glorious day it will be when we each come to understand how special we are and how much we have to offer; all because of our relationship with the Heavenly Father!

  1. Intentional Mentoring in order to encourage and develop future leaders. There is something particularly inspiring when a person you respect and admire believes in you so much that they want to carve out special time and give you special attention in order to share their life and experiences with you. Helping people to find their potential as a fellow laborer in the Kingdom is one of the greatest pleasures that a leader can enjoy. This is mentoring. This is special and needs to be held in high regard.


In the context of our Small Groups, each group leader will be encouraged to seek out a co-leader with whom they can mentor and help develop. There is no particular program or skill set needed to do this. Simply inviting someone to come alongside you in ministry is sufficient.  In addition, both the Shepherds and Minister will be intentional about seeking out opportunities to minister to and help develop leadership skills that are just waiting to be cultivated and utilized. To put in a concise statement, each group leader, Shepherd and Minister will proactively seek to train their replacement.


Role of the Staff and Shepherds

The Shepherds primary responsibility to the Small Group ministry will be to model active participation and provide continual shepherding to the group leaders. The Shepherds understand that leading a group will bring great joy and at times difficult challenges. They are committed to doing whatever is necessary to nurture and mentor each group leader in order to help them to be as effective as possible in this important role.

The Preacher (and any subsequent ministry staff members) will generally serve as a group leader. Most often, as the needs allow, the Preacher will take one quarter each year to participate in a group without having leadership responsibilities. The Preacher will work alongside the Deacon of Small Groups to help provide vision and direction for the ministry. They will work together to recruit and train group leaders, provide continual assessments of the status of the ministry, develop plans for the future and in general carry out the leadership of the ministry as a whole.



Statistics abound that point to an epidemic facing Christian families today. All one needs to do is to select which study they prefer . . . we are losing our young people. A recent study by Chap Clark and Kara Powell (with the Fuller Youth Institute) claim that between 40-50% of all churched teenagers leave their faith when they leave home. Just think about how scary that number is. For a family with three children, the statistics say that one of your children will leave their faith. As disconcerting as this is, all is not lost: according to the same study, between 25-40% of those young Christians that left will return in their mid to late twenties.

There is an abundance of material available offering both research-driven and anecdotal explanations for what is causing our young people to leave their faith. Some of these are obvious, for example, we live in an increasingly secular society; while others are a little more complex (i.e. implications from changing theology). Here are five possible explanation from a concerned observer with five kids.

  1. There is a clear decline in spiritual engagement. In other words, there is a lack of interest in religious activities. There are two great examples of this: summer church camp and bible bowl activities. At one point, the activities were extremely popular with kids and parents alike circling the dates on the calendar. Now, depending on the location, bible bowls and church camps are struggling to stay alive.
  2. A drop-off mentality culture has begun to invade churches. In other words, parents are often relying on their local church and their professional clergy to instill faith in their children. Unfortunately, not only is that against the biblical mandate for parents to raise their children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, it’s simply a bad idea that doesn’t work.
  3. It’s easy to throw rocks at parents and condemn them for the drop-off mentality, as if they don’t care about their children or are too lazy to make the investment in their spiritual growth. That’s usually not the case. Instead, many parents pass off the responsibility of instilling their children’s faith onto the church because they lack confidence. They lack confidence because they have never been equipped and encouraged to own their child’s spiritual development.
  4. There is a lot of competition for the Christian worldview. Satan is extremely talented at redefining values; and these secular values find its way into our homes and eventually our hearts. These ideas like consumerism, materialism and relativism are constantly pulling and tugging children away from the Lord and closer to the world.  
  5. Perhaps the greatest factor that leads our kids away is a poor theology. In far too many homes and churches we are teaching our children to believe in and base their faith upon faulty theology and doctrine. For example, far too many are placing their faith in coming to church instead of seeking out a deep and intimate relationship with God through Jesus Christ.




I often wondered about my place and role in my child’s life. How much influence do I have? How much are they really listening to me? Are their surroundings going to overtake me and their Mother in terms of influence and importance? These are common questions for parents. And they are fair questions. After all, as the spiritual battlefield becomes more and more cluttered with children who have left the church and their faith, it’s natural to wonder when their parents lost the ability to influence, lead and direct their children. And so I am left to fear for the future of my young children.

There is hope. In fact, there is a great deal of hope for those of us who are walking through the daily challenges of raising healthy and faithful God-fearing children. In a recent survey, teens were asked to list the greatest religious influences in their life. Here are the results.

  1. Mother
  2. Father
  3. Minister/Pastor
  4. Grandparent
  5. Sunday School/Bible class
  6. Youth Group
  7. Bible camp
  8. Miscellaneous church event


This list is screaming out to parents. The real question is whether or not Mom and Dad are listening. This list is really nothing more than practical confirmation or proof of what God has been saying for thousands of years.

A great example of this found in the book of Deuteronomy; which is essentially akin to a parents’ last speech to their child who is about to leave home for college. The text in 6:4-9 records Moses’ last words of exhortation, encouragement and direction for his spiritual children before they leave his presence to go on to the land flowing with milk and honey—the promised land. It says,

“Listen, O Israel! The Lord is our God, the Lord alone. And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength. And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up. Tie them to your hands and wear them on your forehead as reminders. Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.


God, through Moses, is laying the responsibility of training children in righteousness (Ephesians 6:4; Proverbs 22:6) at the feet of the parents. At this point (in the history of Israel) it seems that Moses primary concern was ensuring that the nation would thrive and prosper as they entered a new chapter in their collective lives. It is evident that Moses believed that this would happen only if the nation remained faithful to, and walked with, God. For this to happen, each generation of parents needed to teach their children that the Lord is God and that they should love the Lord their God with all their heart, soul and strength. This task was not given to the Elders or even the Priests. It was given to the parents, to be done in the context of the family and the home.

Referring back to the list of influences, it is for both inherent and practical reasons that parents hold the top spot—it is not coincidental or incidental. For Moses, this was the most important direction that he could give. These were his last words to his spiritual children. Teaching a child to honor the Lord as the only God of their life and to love the Lord their God with all of their heart, soul and strength was among the last and most important directions that Moses gave.

Just as God calls and equips those that He calls today, we should expect nothing less as parents. We are equipped with the natural and inherent influence to teach and lead our children. They are our legacy. Their souls are at stake. And it is Mom and Dad’s responsibility.

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“Houston, we have a problem.” Tom Hanks may have made the words famous, but we’re not too far off when it comes to our families in churches across the country. Perhaps unlike any other time in other time in recent history, our families are being attacked spiritually. This should really come as no surprise as 1 Peter 5:8 contends that “Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.” The greatest evidence of this may be seen in the faith of our children, specifically our teenagers. For example, a recent study of “churched” teens who are actively involved in a strong youth ministry program indicated that:

  • Between forty and fifty percent will significantly struggle with their faith when they leave home.
  • Eighty-six percent of these students thought that their faith was not strong enough to stand up on its own.
  • Eighty percent of the students who leave their faith intended to stick with the Church.

Statistics are a dime a dozen and can usually be made to indicate whichever bias the author prefers. These statistics are no different. That being said, the true value in these statistics lie not in the numbers themselves but in the warning shot they extend across our family ships.

Though our attitudes and actions may not always indicate such, our children are not raised in a spiritual vacuum where the Church provides all of their necessary spiritual formation (which often creates an attitude that as long as they consistently attend worship and activities, they will be fine. On the contrary, the spiritual health of our children (and families) is tied directly to the importance that we choose to place in faith in the home. The following results of a survey support such a conclusion.

  • Twelve percent of teens have a regular dialogue with their mother on faith/life issues.
  • Five percent of teens have a regular dialogue with their father on faith/life issues.
  • Nine percent of teens have experienced regular reading of the Bible and devotions in the home.
  • Twelve percent of teens have experienced (participated in) a service-oriented event with a parent as an action of faith.
  • Five percent of families have participated in any type of worship experience outside of corporate worship.

If we truly do have a problem in our families and with the spiritual formation of our children, these statistics help to offer clarity as to the source of the problem—faith and spiritual formation is simply not a priority in the home. Instead, parents are abdicating their God-given responsibilities in favor of drive through religion that is served by Youth Ministers and other church leaders. This is in direct opposition to God’s direction to the Israelites that was given by Moses in Deuteronomy 6:4-9.

Listen, O Israel! The Lord is our God, the Lord alone. And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength. And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up. Tie them to your hands and wear them on your forehead as reminders. Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.


Moses told the Israelites that if they would heed his direction, “then all will go well with you, and you will have many children in the land flowing with milk and honey, just as the Lord, the God of your ancestors, promised you” (Deut 6:3). This direction applies just as well to Christians today. We have the opportunity and obligation to create a legacy of faithful, Christ-like living for generations to come.

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